If your parents no longer want to live with each other, then they separate. If they are married this means that your parents are getting divorced. If your parents want to get divorced then they have to request this from the judge. The judge then officially decides that your parents are separated. Divorce
If your parents get divorcedWhat will happen? Your life will change because of a divorce. What is the biggest change? That your parents will probably no longer live together. They go and live separately, sometimes somewhere else. You will then live with your father or your mother. Or perhaps with your father for one week and with your mother another week.
Questions about the divorceIf your parents get divorced this is often very hard for children. You feel sad and there could be arguments. Your life changes and you may have questions that you can’t always ask or don’t always want to ask your parents. If you have any questions, want to know something or tell something about the divorce of your parents, then you can do the following:
- The COA has people you can talk to without anyone knowing. This person is called a 'confidant’. You can ask him or her questions or talk to him or her about the divorce of your parents.
- You can also talk to someone else about the divorce, for instance a school teacher, a friend or a neighbour.
- At Children’s helpline there are people who help children every day with questions about their life. Many of the questions are about the divorce of parents, so they know very well how to help. You can read more about the Children’s helpline here.
- On the website www.ouders-uit-elkaar.nl you can find a lot of information about what happens exactly after a divorce. You can also get help when writing a letter to the judge. You then say who you would prefer to live with after a divorce.