No one is allowed to abuse you. Not your parents, but also not, for instance, the football club trainer, your neighbour or your teacher at school. You can read more about this under the Safety topic. Child abuse
If someone hurts your feelings or your bodyChild abuse means that someone is hurting you. Someone older than you. For instance by hitting or pinching. But also by saying nasty things to you. This is also abuse. Neglect is also a form of abuse. You then, for instance, don’t get any food. Or attention. Or if someone forces you to have sex, this is also child abuse. All these forms of abuse are prohibited. Things are written about child abuse in the law. In article 1 and article 12 of the Youth Act. The abuse must stop. It’s important to tell someone that you are being abused so you can get help. What happens if you tell someone? Your parents don’t have to go to prison. You and your parents aren’t split up. It does mean help is coming so the abuse stops. What to do if you are abused? Read more.
This is what you can doThis is what you can do if you’re being abused:
Tell someoneTell someone, for instance your teacher at school, a friendly neighbour or the confidant of the COA.
The Children’s helplineCall or chat with the Children’s helpline. This is an organisation that talks to children about their problems every day. The Children’s helpline can help you if you are being abused. They also answer other questions. For instance if you want to know what to do if you are being bullied or if you are worried about the future. You can call the Children’s helpline free of charge and you don’t have to say your name. The number of the Children’s helpline is 116111. Between 2 pm and 8 pm you can also chat with the Children’s helpline, which is sometimes easier than calling. Veilig Thuis Since January 2015 the Child abuse report and advice centre is called Veilig Thuis (safe at home). If things aren’t going well at home or if you are worried about someone then you can call Veilig Thuis. The number is 0800-2000. You can call this number free of charge, day and night. You don’t have to say your name when you call.
Help of the COAThere is a child abuse reporting code. COA members of staff stick to these rules. If they think you are being abused then they will do this:
- Write down why they think you are being abused.
- Consult with a colleague or with Veilig Thuis.
- See you to ask what’s going on.
- See how bad the abuse is. What is happening exactly and how often?
- Decide whether something should be done or report the abuse.